Today I am back again. Yesterday I ended my posting with the thought about people neglecting or even abusing small innocent children. What could an adult, grown person drive to such an abuse.
There are many reasons, some that the outsider might not even suspect. Why would you do it? we might ask the person who commits these abuses against the small helpless children. Something must have gone wrong in the life of the child abuser. In most cases they became parents when they were not ready for this sometimes overwhelming tasks of raising a child. A child needs a lot of attention and care and of course love. But when the latter is missing the child is considered as a burden that makes the life of the parent even more difficult. It is easy to conceive a child, in most cases it is also pleasurable, but raising it, it a big task, that will stay with the parent for a long time. We humans have to take care of our young ones the longest, meaning it will take up to 20 years until our children are ready and grown-up enough to be able to take care of themselves. And that is a long, long time. Not everybody who becomes a parent is ready for this huge commitment. And when there are other problems, like emotional, economical and psychological the tasks becomes  insurmountable . No body should take the task of raising a child lightly. How the child grows up to be depends a lot on the way it was raised.
So what goes wrong when a parent snaps, meaning loosing it..... many things. The child nags the parent to get what he wants. The most powerful weapon that the child uses to get his way is crying, throwing a tantrum. And depending on the character of the child that needs a lot patience from the parent.  When the parent had a stressful day he just might snap and might hit the child to shut his tantrum up. If the parent comes from a violent background he will use mainly violence to solve this problem and the his child will learn that violence is the way to handle these situations. There we go, violence only breads violence again.
What should we do to help these innocent victims? We have to remember the victims here are both the child and the abuser , because the abuser only knows  violence to solve the problem of a child that shows his will e.g. throws a tantrum. Taking away the child would only temporarily solve the problem. The parent needs proper counselling and has  to learn how to deal with the anger.It is a long  process because he has to relearn and forget what he has learned before. But it has to be done to help him as well as his child to have a good and happy life together.
Another reason is poverty. Poverty leads not to physical abuse but to neglect, meaning the child has to fend for himself at a very young age. He is deprived of a proper education what children of school going age should get. He instead has to work to eek out a living for himself and for his numerous siblings too. It is a common sight to see street children in developing nations to beg for some petty cash by selling things. They are very tough because they have to be in order to survive on the streets.

Today I will end here.

Continue tomorrow.

Today I will start my blog. Yesterday coincidentally the world celebrated Women's Day. In the news and the written media accolade about successful women were published. The women have come a long way since the days when the suffragettes marched on the roads of London and New York to fight for their right to vote. That was the beginning of the struggle to emancipate women.
Nowadays we find women in almost all professions on this planet, the traditional ones like house wifes, farmers and teachers and nurses to the formerly male dominated professions like engineer and pilot and even soldier. The sky is the limit for them, they even entered the board room of the corporate sector and even countries are ruled and governed by female presidents and prime ministers.
But above all this they are still mothers.And that is one of the most beautiful but also  most difficult job in the world. Giving birth is hard and painful work, but every mother will tell you that the pain is forgotten as soon as she sees her baby. I can verify this because I did it 4 times. And then the job of raising the child starts and that is not an easy job. Raising children is the only job in the world that we do without formal training, we just learn from our parents and a lot through trial and error. But the unending love of a mother for her child will help her to intuitively to do the correct thing. No mother will harm her child. Is this statement still true?
This I will ponder about in another posting.

This is enough for today.

This mother is signing off.